...r of years, their experience is not very ide or deep. Their interpretations of the orld, hy things happen, is extremely limited and often very inaccurate. Nevertheless, these early interpretations are often the groundork upon hich later, more accurate and sophisticated explanations are based. Exposed to poor or destructive parenting, a child is likely to explain the mistreatment as being deserved due to some lack, deficit or badness ithin himherself. In other ords, if someone has to be the bad or undeserving, the child is inclined to take the negative self-vie on himherself. In this ay a child protects his parents they are kept perfect. It is not that the child has bad parents instead he or she becomes the bad child ho gets just hat he or she deserves. People seem to have a need to repeat unrearding situations in the present that are remarkably similar to unhappy situations and relationships that occurred in their childhood. It is as if they are trying, over an over again, to recreate a painful experience from childhood, but, this time, have it ork out better. The attempt is to undo a painful history by redoing it successfully in the present. hile one part of the personality seems to be actively engaged in trying to redo the past in a more favorable or successful manner, another part seems determined to make sure that the present turns out exactly the same as the past. This is certainly a more difficult motive to understand since it seems designed to continue a painful, frustrating, even self-defeating situation. ho e are, our sense of self is a product of all the experiences that have impinged upon us. Every time e say I am good at riting, or I cant play tennis, or I am not very good at arithmetic, or Athletics are really my great strength e are making a statement about some aspect or ourself, our identity. Over the years, e add to and modify parts of that identity. The process goes on ithout our having to give it much thought. Often, discovering ho e are becomes a complicated process of revieing influences that have had an impact ithout our realizing it. Sometimes, the revie process--the getting to kno ourselves--holds some very real surprises as ell as confrontation ith some real contradictions that exist ithin our personality. Despite all this things, people do change over the years. They change their ays of life, their jobs, their families, sometimes even their personality. Experience is very important hereExperience is a revelation in the light of hich e renounce our errors of youth for those of age.As a child, you dont have to orry about anything. All you have to do is discover the orld around you. And that is pretty easy hen you are 5 years old, dont you thinkAs a teenager, things are starting to look more difficult. You leave your toys behind, and start looking for your on personality.And then you turn 18 !DOCTYPE HTML PUBLIC -3CDTD HTML 4.0 TransitionalEN!-- saved from url0051http.theherald.orgissues041197genes.f.html --I bet you could fill the entire paper ith stories about hat you used to be like, odd habits that you dropped and so forth. By the time you turn 18, you are considered an adult. Does turning 18 mean youre done groing as a person Of course youll continue to learn and experience ne things, but ill the essence of your character change I think that, for the majority of cases, ho you are hen you turn 18 is pretty much ho youll be for the rest of your life. hat factors cause people to change hat can cause a chronically grumpy person to become pleasant and agreeable hat can turn a dependent, submissive person into someone independent and assertive Maybe it is because ere extroverts, but e think people change personality, habits and emotional grounding over time primarily because of the influence of other people. One reason people ouldnt question their characteristics is if they didnt have to. Imagine if you didnt interact ith people after high school, if you got your college degree by reading the books and vieing taped lectures from your room. You might still change because of a good philosophy or English class. You ould probably have read more books in your leisure time, and that could have caused you to look at things differently, too. But altogether, youd probably be pretty much the same as you ere at the end of high school. But bigger changes are possible hen one is surrounded by so many peers. Its so easy to observe your friends and neighbors, examine their lifestyles and compare them to your on. And if youre honest ith yourself, you can see that maybe theyre going about something better than you are. Maybe youll find you dell on mistakes more than your friends do, and youll ask yourself hy. Or youre more organized than you need to be, or youre hanging out ith the same people too often. Being around others allos us to question everything about our lives, a process that can be reaffirming or unsettling but often leads to change. Not everyone changes though. There are still those e kno ho are as abrasive, messy, timid or clingy as ever. But the opportunity for change is present. Ho about marriage and raising children These things make everyone reevaluate their priorities and have the potential to change peoples behaviors. At 20 you have many desires hich hide the truth, but beyond 40 there are only real and fragil truths- your abilities and your failings.Scientist say that e all have a different personality type.hat is a personality typeHYPERLINK http.theherald.orgissues041197homepage.htmlPRIVATE TYPEPICTALT It is something youre born ith. Like handedness or other preferred ays of using your brain, your Personality Type is an essential and inherent part of ho you are.It is not possible to change our type as a result of experiences or as a result of pressure to be different. hile e may change the ay e behave and may develop all kinds of adaptive or accommodating skills or habits, e do not change our personality type. No, under extraordinary circumstances i.e. serious child abuse, extensive experience in a lifestyle or career that runs counter to your normal operating style, people can and sometimes do become so affected or damaged that they no longer recognize their true selves. But in most situations, all e are really changing is our behavior - not our inborn preference.All types develop over time - and in a pretty predictable and logical fashion. e all begin to unconsciously develop and strengthen the less developed parts of our personality starting at around mid-life. This explains hy ork that used to be a good fit may no longer be, or hy e begin to see ourselves differently. e are not the same person at 20 as e are at 40.A person is born ith one true type and remains that type all your life. If you seem to behave differently at orkschool than you do at home, you might consider hich is the real or true you, and hich is the one you have to act like in order to meet the demands you have placed on you.In conclusion, people change over the y...
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